Having trouble choosing or activating the second word of your Style Statement? It might be because it feels more challenging than your first word. If our first word is our roots, our second word is our wings … it’s how we put our lives into action. So it’s pretty important!
Our second word can evoke our lessons and struggles. We tend to repress or dance around our second word since it can be a stretch, a bit scary and uncomfortable. It needs to be to move us forward in life — it’s our edge, the thing that makes us unique and captivating.
Paradoxically enough, our second word is often what we get noticed and appreciated for, yet what we don’t embrace and nurture enough. The danger here is that we can neglect to give ourselves the gift of our desire, our talent … our dreams.
- Luminous dares to reveal and discuss relationship problems, lights up a room when she enters it, yet shrinks from starting the business she’s wanted forever and wears drab clothes.
- Bold is funny and takes a stand for her community, speaks her mind at work, but lacks courage to pursue a romance that might make her very happy because she’d have to make the first move.
- Ease creates grace and calm for others but finds herself tense and perfectionistic at work. She wears tailored suits to work but really wants to be engulfed in a drapey wrap dress.
As you can see, there’s often a contradiction happening before we claim and nurture our second word.
If you’re having trouble with yours, don’t sweat it, and don’t force it. Take a break … some discoveries happen in phases. Let yourself off the hook until you find a chance for some perspective … and out of the blue you’ll hit on it. You could be taking a shower, driving, listening to music, exercising, or even washing dishes in a trance!
When you embrace your second word, you’ll fly.