Style Statement -- Live by your own design

WHAT I DO: Writer, brand strategist, mother, wife.

About three months ago, I began working with Carrie; she wanted to refresh the Style Statement brand as well as to get some writing support. To help me understand what she does, Carrie offered me a Style Statement session.

Going in, I admit I was skeptical. I have my defenses up against anything that seems too “new-agey” or that promises me happiness instantly if I just follow such-and-such plan or so-and-so’s advice … you know what I mean.

Not ten minutes into the session, I was intrigued and enjoying myself. By the end of the interview, I had spilled things I haven’t talked about in ages, telling Carrie about what I longed for, what I needed, who I was, and who I wanted to become. My fears. My strengths. Myself.

What I got most out of my session was a feeling of permission … that it’s okay to want things, to question the status quo, to strive for more. At the same time, I felt really good about who I am now. I might need to tweak a few things from time to time, but if I just listen to myself, really listen, I’ll live my life in a way I can be proud of.

All to say it was wonderful — almost like going to a spa but more lasting! — as is working with Carrie. We wanted to introduce me in this post since you’ll be seeing my name a little more in the future in this blog. Without further ado, here are a few things about me.

I LOVE: Having my hair washed (and scalp massaged!) at the salon, snuggling into bed early with a good book, most shows by HBO, random acts of kindness, brilliant and articulate people, constant and caring people, spare, subtle, but surprising prose, caprese salad (if the tomatoes are perfect), amazing service at restaurants and stores, losing myself in music (right now I’m loving Metric), any Kiehl’s products.

I AM INSPIRED: By women who are comfortable in their own skin, who radiate confidence and who laugh easily and sincerely. And by my husband, who is so smart but understated.

MY FORM OF GENIUS: Is listening to people and helping them to express themselves.

I’M MY BEST SELF: When I’m relaxed and not overly critical of myself. When I’m confident. When I trust my instincts and don’t think about what other people think.

I LOATHE: Loud, aggressive men who think they’re funny when they’re not.

I’M SCARED OF: Becoming too “adult.” Not listening enough to my whimsical, creative side. Not taking enough risks.

I CRAVE: Little moments of luxury in my busy life. A stolen hour of reading … a delicious dinner out with my husband … a great movie matinee … having the time to cook an amazing, ambitious meal … artichokes, olives, and anything with lemon, salt, and garlic.

A MEMORABLE EXPERIENCE FOR ME: When I was stressed out before my wedding, a Vancouver massage therapist named Tina gave me a 90-minute massage that changed my life. She knew exactly what my body needed and that I wanted quiet, and I feel eternally thankful for her generosity and talent.

SUCCESSFUL MEANS TO ME: That I feel I love what I do, that I’m a good person, I have a lifestyle that’s interesting and not too constrained by money, and that I balance my own interests with being a great mom.

WHAT SURPRISED ME ABOUT BECOMING A MOM: How much sacrifice is involved. How the best moments are etched into your memory, your being, forever. How ferocious the love is.

SEXY MEANS TO ME: Exercising enough and eating well enough that I feel toned and healthy. Not thinking about my looks so much that I forget that sexy comes from the inside most of all and that it’s helped along by laughter, confidence (again that word!), and feeling loved. Oh, and a little mystery and daring, too.

MY FAVORITE OUTFIT: Yup, the classic: perfect jeans (with well-placed pockets on the bum!), a perfectly fitted, quality t-shirt, a funky belt, and great boots. Top it off with good hair, hoop earrings, and a pendant on solid silver chain.

I look forward to hanging out with you on Style Statement!