I was recently comparing myself to a dear friend who lives joyfully, owns a beautiful home, wears fabulous clothes, and is adored – yes adored – by her husband. She’s lovely and I’m happy for her, yet part of me shrinks. One day hormones and old business crap caught me feeling sorry for myself. I got a reality check when another friend said, “Carrie, comparison is violence. Why would you intend to hurt yourself that way?”
Wham. Thanks, M. I got it.
“People are like snowflakes…uniquely beautiful because of the details. To compare snowflakes is not productive. Instead, celebrate what sets you apart – what’s most particular and true about you and your own uniqueness will become clear.”
Manifesto of Style
There are people who are different from you and you are different from them. Soften the voice in your head. Be gentle. Be aware. Be accepting. Different isn’t better or worse. It’s just different.
So very true. Thank you for the reminder.
Good reminder indeed. Each of us needs to be that one wonderful, authentic, unique person that no one else can be. Also, part of accepting ourselves is accepting and honoring those who are in our innermost circle — not putting up with bad behavior, mind you, but not measuring them against someone else that sounds “better.” Not always an easy thing, not for me anyway.
Hugs to you today and thanks for sharing!